marriage is the best institution in the world, in fact its the only institution recognised by God.

marriage is the sweetest thing to ever exist in the world, God started it and made it sweet and place so much value on it but men reduced the value to just two which is “sex and child bearing” homes are being broken marriages is coming to an end because of sex and child bearing.

It’s a pity that so many people go into marriage because of sex, sex shouldn’t be the reason we get into relationship be it marriage or courtship.

Our sex life might be amazing but marriage sucks.

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Please let’s read this little drama below

He woke up horny.
He started touching his wife on her breasts.
He flipped her over. Got on top of her.
He started kissing her, but she seemed not interested.
He turned his game up. Kissed her on her neck as he spread her legs. She looked off.
“What’s wrong?” He asked.
“Us” she said.
“What do you mean?” He asked.
“The only thing we do great together is having sex” She said. (Now you will agree with me that this marriage is only built on sex)

“I thought you loved our sex life and I am faithful to you, I don’t cheat” he told her.
“I do. You sex me good. But marriage is more than sex.

its a good thing that you are faithful but don’t you think there’s more to it than being faithful? To me marriage needs to have depth, substance etc; not just centered around sex.

I don’t want us to only be two empty souls that are faithful to each other. We had it, we used to have depth. I want us to talk, laugh, pray, date again just in the days of our courtship, we can even better now that we married. Let’s cuddle, let’s make memories, let’s play with our children, we can even travel and see the world, let’s debate on topics like we used to do before marriage, what happened to our sport life? Right now we don’t go to concerts, we don’t have intimacy in our marriage.

What we currently have is not marriage, but a sexual arrangement, sex is just not enough” she lamented.
“Ouch! That’s painful” said he.
“The painful truth” said she.
He started stroking her hair gently and said, “You are right. Things changed when we got kids, life got busy I guess”
She looked at him and said, “Darling, people make time for what is important. I want to be more than the mother of your children, I am your wife, I want to feel like a wife. I want quality time with you like we used to have; not a lot, just enough. I want to be loved and talked to. I want our time.

When was the last time you stroked my hair like you are doing right now?”
“A long time ago” he answered.
She placed her finger on his lips and said, “Exactly, you haven’t taken time to look at me because we both are always in a hurry.

You know a woman doesn’t ask for much. Even something as little as you stroking my hair touches my heart. The end

Now you will agree with me that So many wives are tired of sex in their marriage: They fake orgasms, fake headaches or exhaustion and some pretend they are on their periods just to escape having sex with their husbands because they don’t feel married but a sex engine.

I want to feel married my love. I don’t want to become like those women. This home is not a lodge for you to come, sleep, get sex then leave day in day out. This is our home, our bed, our marriage.

I need you my husband”
“I need you too” he told her and kissed her.
The kiss was sweet, intense, not rushed and not sexual. It was intimate.
He reclined back to the bed.
He placed her head on his chest and for a while they talked as he played with her fingers. They laughed, randomly prayed, opened up and emotionally connected.
Since then, their marriage is not centered around sex; and when they do have sex, it’s not sex, it’s making love.
Have you made your marriage empty as you hide behind sex? There is more to marriage than sex . Above is the beauty of marriage.

thanks for reading.


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